9 DON'TS TO SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Relationship…

Singles crave to be in it and sometimes engaged want to get out of it. Whatever the scenario is, we can not deny that love relationship is one of the most discussed parts of our life. But have we ever thought about the necessity of dealing it with care? by care, I mean with proper love education... It may sound harsh ladies but we genuinely need to learn few do’s and don’t’s to maintain our precious relationship.

I wish I knew all these when I was helplessly watching him go. Then I discussed with a few experienced ladies, read a few books and thoroughly researched on the topic, on the drawbacks, on the incidents. Finally, I realized my contribution to that break-up. So I decided to share with you as well…

In this article, I am just going to talk about the don’t’s... I really don’t want you to repeat the same mistakes...

If you are reading this article then I can guess that you are facing a few problems in your relationship. So let’s talk about the issues…

1. Don’t be a nagging girlfriend

I know you love him a lot and always eager to tell him how much you love him, always willing to be with him. But doing so is not a good one in case of a relationship. 

They want love and space at the same time. I had a boyfriend in my school days. I was always busy writing dozens of letters, making a lot of phone calls and as a consequence, he became irritated and told me something that I will never forget in this lifetime. He said, “I know you love me, but honey, imagine you love a puppy and you always keep him in your lap, don’t you think he will die soon just out of suffocation?”. 

Give him space. It can be normal to have different friend circles. Respect his personal time. 

2. Do not be a ‘Yes’ woman

This is a major problem. we women often think that opposing his opinion, or saying ‘no’ can be an end of our protected relationship. But the situation is just different. You have your life, family, career, and friends. You have your own likes and dislikes. If you do not like to have pasta is dinner, you do not have to. Do you really think having Plates of pasta as per his wish can save your relationship or prove you a better girlfriend? 

I am not asking to never compromise. But do not compromise at a price of your existence. Do not change your personality. He proposed to you because what you are, with your flaws, with your purity. And trust me trying to fulfill someone’s expectations are a blind run in a desert.

 
3. Do not be chatterbox all the time

Learn to maintain a good pace while you talk. Be a good listener. Allow him to talk about his cruel boss, his monotonous job, his startup dreams... it's so enchanting to listen to his endless talks. He will also be listener after finishing his turn. 

4. Do not play the victim

Acting like a victim shows your inner weakness. You want his love, not his sympathy right? Maybe you are struggling to get a promotion, that does not mean that you are the victim of your office politics. This is an immature and dramatic behavior. And believe me, men do not like drama. 

By doing so you are making him insecure. He will start assuming you are going to play the victim in the case of your relationship as well…

5. Do not be a mother or nanny all the time

Let him do the party with his bachelor gang. Let him smoke. Let him go for a bike ride on highways. I know you are concerned about him. But do not suffocate him with your own rules. He will start to tell you to lie in silly matters son. And that will become his habit.

Above all let him enjoy his Manhood. 

6. Don’t act like a spy

Never ever peep into his phone, his social media profiles. And talking behind him with his friends about his activities is a big no. This shows that you are not trustworthy, you conspire, you are insecure. He will never spend his life with a spy. Be a friend. He will share everything even when you are not asking.

7. Do not ever talk negative 

If you are not happy with your own life you can not make anyone happy. Do not be a negative or pessimistic person. Pessimism is a contagious disease. He will not enjoy your company if you are a negative person.  

8. Don’t underestimate him or yourself

By underestimating someone you can not prove your self better. Do not think he doesn’t deserve you or you do not deserve him. This kind of mentality will spoil the mutual respect. Both of you are not perfect. Complement each other. Do not be the competitor.

9. Do not ignore your family

To spend a lot of time with him, we often forget to keep some time for our families. Do not do this. A sensitive man never chooses a woman who doesn’t love her family. Because he knows that in the future that woman will never take care of his parents and cannot be the good mother to his children either.

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A relationship is a kind of jugglery. You have to maintain the balance, concentrate and be careful. I hope these points will help you to improve the present situation.

It is easy to blame someone but good women know to accept and rectify their faults.