8 STEPS TO A CHANGED AND BETTER YOU

It is really easy to go with the flow, without thinking about anybody just indulging in selfish interests. But striving for a better person is a better way to live a life. 

People do not remember the beautiful faces but they remember beautiful hearts. Success is not about competing with others, it is about competing with your own old version and be changed for better each time. Here we will discuss a few ways to be the best version of yourself. 

Scroll to know 8 steps to a changed and better you.

1. LET IT GO

Do not dwell on the past. It is necessary for a healthy mental and physical balance. Well, I know it is sometimes really hard to forget about the past and I am not asking you to forget everything. Because we are just the sum of our memories. Our memories and experiences create our personality. But we must let go of the old grudges, and enmity. 

“ Do not be a problem, be a solution”  

Sadhguru

When I was going through a tough time two motivational speakers saved my life. I have already quoted a line from one of them, yes I am talking about Sadhguru.To explore and learn life lessons from a guru like him visit isha foundation. He actually changed my life.

Stop blaming yourself for the past stories. Forgive others and forgive yourself. You are strong to do so. There cannot be any problem which is bigger than you. Believe your ability...

2. USE YOUR EXPERIENCES 

Let go of the old grudges and regrets but do not forget about the hidden lessons. Remember, every person and events occurred in your life had a purpose. The persons played their role and moved on. Life is a journey and they were the co-passengers. 

Learn from those past events and do not repeat the mistakes. It is necessary to contemplate on those events. Asking your inner self, the ‘Why’ and ‘What’. Ask repeatedly and do not forget to internalize the lessons.

Lessons are really very important to lead a meaningful life. A life without depth, meaning, lesson, and experiences are just like the empty vessels. 


Experiences helped you to be a girl from a kid, a lady from a girl ..so you know the importance of such experiences. 

3. LEARN

Be an eager learner. I always tried to learn from everything and everyone. It is not about self-bragging or something like that. I was never a topper. But a consistent learner. Be someone who is able to talk about anything and everything.

There is a saying: 

"A learned lady is a dangerous thing."

There are a lot of things to know, a lot of biographies to motivate you and books are really your best friend. Books are capable enough to change the way you use to think or see or perceive things. 

To communicate with different people you need to know a few things, you need to be a learned lady. Your words must carry some value and weight. Loose talkers never get ears, ladies...

That does not mean that you have to keep talking about something you do not know. Knowledge is an asset and the human mind is capable of storing a lot of data.

4. WRITE

Write down your flaws, values, ideas, short and long-term goals. Write down everything. It is not only required to keep you focused but for decluttering your mind as well.

Journaling is a good habit for analyzing and rethinking your own goals. Be honest with your own diary. It will help for self-assessment. Writing down everything is also helpful to be more organized.

We will discuss in a different article about writing down your goals and why it is really very important for you...

5. BE ALONE

Learn to be alone. Enjoy your own company. If you are unhappy with your self then how can you expect someone to be happy with you?

Enjoy your ‘Me’ time. Do whatever you want. Develop a skill, cook, listen to music, gardening or anything to enjoy. 

Enjoy your own time to develop yourself, inside out. It is not at all loneliness. It is a power to stay happy without depending on others. Being social is good. But remember, it is better to cherish and feel the person inside you...She is the healer...trust me...

6. SMILE

Life is a combination of hard and good times. But you must not forget to smile. If you observe your surroundings, sitting still on a park bench, you will notice enough reasons to smile a bit broader than usual. 

Try to exchange a smile with a stranger, you will instantly feel the good after that :)

7. BUILD HEALTHY HABITS

Now, this is one of my favorites. Healthy Habits are the groundwork for a healthy life. Start small and set realistic goals, like:

-    I will drink a glass of water after waking up.

-    I will practice conscious breathing for one minute.

-    I will skip smoking before sleeping hour.


Well, I know this can be a never-ending list. And, trust me, I will talk about this, in some other article for sure.

I generally write down all of this new habits and a list and give tick after doing it unless I become habituated to doing all these things like - having 5 Almonds every morning, stretching once in between two or three hours of work etc.

8. MEDITATE

You need a healthy mind to get your motivation to practice whatever I said. It is not easy to sit still for a long in the beginning. So, try to sit still for 5 minutes first. There are lots of guided meditation tracks available on the internet. Those can help you to do it.

You can try essential oils, candles, deep breathing and white noise techniques for meditation. There are different essential oils with different effects. Google about a few. I personally prefer Lavander, Sandle, and Mint. 

Here are a lovely pack of essential oils you can try:



Some more things you must give a thought:


-    Stay close to nature

-    Travel alone (solo traveling is cool just try once)

-    Practice Gratitude

-    Avoid Negative thoughts

-    Be kind


Honestly speaking this list cannot end. Because the ways to be better and good are really endless. We will explore the other possible ways in other articles.

I am really eager to hear your success stories. Comment and share with me...

Hope to see ‘the changed you’ 😼😼